Updated: May 16, 2019
Self-Care…what in the hell is that? Sounds like one of those elusive teachings back on The Oprah Show that made you feel all warm and cheery only to realize an hour later you have no idea what it is or how to do it.
It's close to the Holy Grail for moms, you know, that Promise Land of Happiness that always seems impossible to find but that would be amazing if we did...and do you know WHY?
Because most of us DESPERATELY need it!
We’ve gotten so caught up in the cultural bullshit that we need to get more done, work harder, and busy ourselves every moment of the day. Somehow, if we aren’t busy, then we aren’t worthy or we've fallen short of the "perfect" mom vision that we so often chase for some stupid reason.
I know this all too well because I am first in line toward this unreachable pursuit of "orchestrating the perfect symphony"… when in reality my life with three kids is often a mad dash in every direction to do it all and be it all to everyone. My efforts end up looking more like a first grade music teacher trying to pull off the perfect Christmas musical... very cute, but disorganized, off key, and painstakingly smiling through the chaos of it all.
But guess what…the pursuit of perfection never ends and it never seems to be enough (or not even close to enough)!
The to-do list just gets longer, the commitments just get more frequent, and at the end of the day, we have to ask ourselves if we are honestly happier and more fulfilled with this insane pace of life we've bought hook, line and sinker?
I know the answer for me is a loud and very clear NO! (Actually more like an OH, HELL NO!)